Feelings are intuitive.
I can’t think twice about a feeling—it just happens, like a first impression.

With practice, I can create an environment that encourages me to feel more of what suits me. This requires conscious effort and a focus on the main feeling I want to cultivate in my life - and that is what this tip is about. 

The more balanced I become, the less situations destabilize me. 
For instance, when I overcome a Cold Case (see tips in "My Filter"), situations that used to trigger me lose their power over me. Still, we’re human, and we experience emotions all the time.

Knowing when I can trust my feelings
The key is to recognize where a feeling arises from:
Is it coming from my head—meaning my Ego is in control?
Or is it arising from my body?

Here are a few ways to tell the difference:
- When my head triggers it: The feeling tends to stick around, often fueled by overthinking.
- When it comes from my body: It’s more of a floating impression, which fades unless I actively focus on it.
- When I check in with my body: It provides a clear, grounded response. This sense comes from deep within, and it’s always authentic. For instance when I ask myself whether my body needs a rest. My head might want to keep going, but my body will tell me whether it is tired. 
- When a strong emotion doesn’t feel good: I need to ask myself if I’m polluting myself or if the feeling is real. Some cases are obvious: if a car doesn’t stop while I’m crossing the road, I feel scared, and I run!
Other situations, like in the office, are less clear. Is the situation or person genuinely triggering me, or is my Ego clouding my judgment? As an example, if there is a co-worker I do not like at work and I feel uncomfortable around. If nothing specific happened, and I have no fact or seen nothing which justifies my feeling, then it is most likely coming from my Ego.

When my Ego is driving my emotions, I can’t trust my feelings because my judgment is clouded. This is crucial to recognize, as what might feel like intuition could actually be my past experiences influencing how I perceive the present.

What is an intuition?
An intuition is my body’s way of warning me that something is off —especially in situations where I’m craving for things to work out.

For example if I really want to make a friend, but there’s a small voice inside me saying it won’t work, that’s my intuition speaking. 
I might ignore it because I’m so focused on making the friendship happen. Later, if things go wrong, I’ll remember that initial discomfort. Alternatively, I might tolerate my discomfort and make compromises to keep the friend.

Another example could be a friend asking me out, and I really want to go but at the same time I feel exhausted and do need a rest. 

Intuition is my body telling me "This does not seem to be what you think it is "!
Then it is always my choice whether I listen to it or not.

Acknowledging my intuitions
What matters most is that I acknowledge the feeling which my body is bringing up.
I bring it up from my gut into my brain and recognize that I’m feeling this way - so the feeling does not go away before I have processed it
Then I ask myself: does this feeling align with reality, or am I imagining it?
Am I trying to fit a circle into a square, forcing a situation or person to match my expectations?

Once I’ve acknowledged the feeling and validated that it comes from my body, I can consciously decide to listen to this intuition and act accordingly, or do I ignore it and move forward despite the discomfort.

There is no “right” or “wrong” answer—only the one I choose. The future isn’t written until it becomes the present: I always have the power to influence my part of the story.