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The universal rules that govern my life

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THE UNIVERSAL RULE THAT GOVERNS MY LIFE

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MYSELF

EGO

PRESENT

CONNECT

FILTER

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POLLUTION

RULES

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TIPS - The Universal Rule that governs my life

FOCUS

DO NOT TRY - DECIDE

DESIGN MY FUTURE SELF

My attention is drawn to what I believe in. What I see reinforces my thoughts, making me believe I am right. This leads to noticing even more of the same, creating a reinforcing loop.

Until now, this pattern occurred without me being aware of it.
Now I understand that if I don’t pay attention, my brain operates as follows:

It lets my Ego take over, which naturally tends to worry.
My Ego picks one worry to dominate my thoughts.
My brain then looks for proof that the worry is valid, seeking visual confirmation.
It disregards anything that doesn’t amplify the worry.
It keeps searching until it finds proof.
This “proof” can be anything. For example, if I believe the world is in an economic crisis, I’ll start noticing beggars more often. I’ll see shops closing down. I might think a store is running sales because they aren’t making enough money and need to attract customers. Anything my Ego can link to my primary concern will be categorized as evidence.

To counter this, I need to do two things: first, be aware of the phenomenon, and second, consciously choose what to focus on.

Being aware means staying close to my Ego (cf. tips for the My Ego Puzzle piece).

I will not walk through life as a zombie, oblivious to where my thoughts are going.
I will remain alert and decide what I want to focus on.
I refuse to spend my time worrying about things that might happen. Instead, I’ll direct my energy toward meaningful pursuits, like learning something new, planning time with people I love, appreciating something beautiful, or savoring a special moment.

Being aware means taking control of my mind and my Ego. I decide what to focus on instead of being dragged into dark thoughts.

Now, once I’m aware of the pattern, I can consciously choose topics that uplift me.

I’ll pick topics that energize me rather than drag me down.
I’ll look for proof that supports these positive thoughts, using the same process my Ego uses, but in reverse.
For example, if I want to focus on extending my family, I’ll:

Notice kids in the street.
See kids in supermarkets as I shop.
Hear colleagues talking about their children.
Observe people working from home because their child is sick.
Before long, I’ll find myself surrounded by signs of children and family life. This will reinforce the belief that having a family is possible for me. As I notice pregnant women in the street or newborns with their parents, it will further convince me that this is achievable.

What I see reinforces my beliefs, and those beliefs shape how I speak, feel, and act.
That said, it’s essential to remember: just because I believe in something doesn’t make it true. For instance, some people still believe the Earth is flat, but that doesn’t flatten it!

What this practice does accomplish is convincing me that something is possible. It shows me that what I want is happening around me and could happen for me too.

When I focus on something I crave, it feels good. This isn’t about judging the gap between my dream and my current life or dwelling on how it feels when reality sets in. It’s about pairing positive thoughts with positive emotions and allowing those emotions to support me.

This process is about what I think and where I direct my attention.
I’d rather focus on what I crave and believe is possible than on worrying about what could go wrong... and may never happen!
There’s not much room for a grey zone: it’s one or the other.
Either I let my Ego prove myself wrong about something meaningful to me, or I choose to believe it’s possible and look for evidence to reinforce that belief.

I need to consciously pick my camp, or my Ego will pick for me.

This tip empowers me to take charge of my thoughts and direct them toward what I want to create in my life. By staying aware and choosing to focus on possibilities rather than worries, I can build beliefs that support how I want to live.

For the purpose of communication, we’ve created words that have no tangible reality. It makes total sense, as we need them to explain ourselves—yet the story changes when it comes to how our brain understands these words.
To illustrate this, let’s focus on the verb “to try.”

“Trying” is a concept that doesn’t exist in reality. It’s very useful for expressing ideas and intentions, but our brain struggles to process something that isn’t concrete.
Because our thinking can often be black and white, anything that doesn’t fit neatly into those categories tends to fall into the "at risk" zone. In our binary brain, if trying means both doing and not doing (since there’s no guarantee of success), it becomes a strange expression. Strange signals potential danger. Potential danger equals avoidance.

This is why, when we say we’ll “try” to do something, we are unconsciously less likely to achieve it. “Trying” implies hesitation, uncertainty, or even resistance.

Let’s use a simple example to illustrate this concept.
Imagine someone asks me to take a cup of tea. A normal cup of tea—no risks, nothing unusual about it.
Now, I answer instinctively, without overthinking: which of these two sentences feels more natural to me?
Grab this cup.
Try to grab this cup.
To be exhaustive, when we’ve worked with people who preferred the second sentence, it was often because they felt the first one sounded too bossy. They preferred a more polite, gentle phrasing.
Putting that angle aside, most people found that “try to grab this cup” felt odd. It made them wonder: Why should I try? Is there something wrong with the cup? Is it harder than I think? Is there a hidden trap I’m not seeing?

This simple example shows how our brains operate.
“Trying” implies that I might fail, that it might be difficult, or that success is uncertain. None of these thoughts create a positive impression.

To avoid this ambiguity, I need to avoid “trying.” Instead, I need to decide. I either take the cup or I don’t.

The same applies to life.

I can decide to use Thee Puzzle and transform how I live my life. Or I can try to change, keeping all my options open—ultimately most likely staying the same.

Deciding carries far more weight. It also requires courage because once I decide, there’s nowhere to hide. It means I’m doing it—no matter how difficult, scary, or painful. I’ll keep going until I succeed. This is my promise to myself: I won’t give up until this is done and behind me.
And when it is, trust us —we all wonder why it ever felt like such a big deal. 
Our Ego is clever at creating resistance to change. Just like with “trying,” change feels uncertain because we don’t fully know who we’re becoming.

Once the decision is made, I need to keep going. On the other side of the puff of smoke my brain creates, it’s so worth it. This is how I grow and become better and bigger.

Words carry intentions, and intentions are powerful tools that shape our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
It’s now up to me to decide to live a better life.

I already have all the resources I need within me. And with Thee Puzzle, I have the tools to organize those resources and make it happen.

The objective of this tip is to become the person I aspire to be.

With Thee Puzzle, I aim to grow and transform into a stronger and better version of myself. I want to embody the traits and qualities that define the person I would love to become. 
These changes can touch on any area of my life. For example, I may want to be more assertive at work—and in life overall. Perhaps I want to love myself more, feel at ease in social settings, or simply be happier. This tip is to help me move closer and closer to being "it"—whatever "it" may mean to me:

As a start, I should create a list of affirmations
This list must have a minimum of 33 items, each starting with "I." 
I should avoid using verbs like "must," "have to," "want," or "need." Instead, I will focus on action or being verbs. 
All affirmations must be positive (no negative phrasing) and written in the present tense.
For instance, I might write: "I am the best Mum for my child". Or "I radiate confidence and self-love". Or "I am at ease in any social environment."

With these statements, I should capture what feels out of reach
My affirmations should include the qualities and experiences I deeply desire but doubt I can achieve. If I struggle with finding a partner, for example, I might write affirmations about loving myself or being loved by others. If I dream of becoming a parent, I could include affirmations like: "I enjoy growing a baby inside me" or "I never give up on becoming a Mum."
The more uncomfortable an affirmation makes me feel, the more important it is to include it on my list. This discomfort highlights the limiting beliefs holding me back. My goal is not to reinforce what I already believe to be true, but to challenge the barriers preventing me from becoming the person I want to be. The more an affirmation resonates deeply or unsettles me, the more powerful it is.

Once I have my list, I should associate a gesture with each affirmation. Each statement should have a unique gesture associated with it. 

Then, every morning, before I leave the house or start work, I will say all my affirmations out loud, paired with their gestures. If possible, I will even do them in front of a mirror to see me and hear myself. 
I will speak with strength and conviction, as if I already believe in them. 

At first, this practice will feel strange and artificial, especially because many items on the list will not yet feel true. That is the entire point. By repeating these affirmations daily, over time, I will start to trust they are valid and no longer awkward or unnatural. 
As I say and mimic these affirmations day after day, my subconscious will start to accept them. This process creates a ripple effect: as I begin to trust these affirmations, I will unconsciously start to align my actions with them. My behavior will shift, and I’ll notice gradual changes in my life, moving in the direction I desire.

The key is to trust the process. Begin with daily affirmations and gestures, let them take root in my mind, and watch my actions and life transform over time. While I don’t know exactly when or how the changes will come, I can be confident that they are on their way. As I align my actions with my affirmations, I will attract the life I seek for. 

CONGRATULATIONS!

MYSELF

EGO

PRESENT

CONNECT

FILTER

COMPASS

PROTECTION

POLLUTION

RULES

MASTER

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