The Puzzle piece MYSELF IS MULTIPLE
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Witness how others have used the Puzzle and inspire yourself
Pick one Puzzle piece
Apply the tip(s)
Follow up on results
Acknowledge positive impact
The puzzle tips
INTRODUCTION TO THE PUZZLE PRACTICE BOOK
The practice book is available to keep track of my thoughts, and support me step by step through my transformation to live well.
I will find here all the Puzzle tips, together with some help on how to apply these tips, and measure progress.
I can either print it and write on it, or use a side booklet of my own to take notes.
3 key advises to live well are:
Start small, and build up from there.
Experiment in place and/or with people I am comfortable with, then expand.
The more I practise, the more comfortable I am, and the easier it gets!
Have fun anchoring these new habits!
SETTING THE SCENE TO LIVE WELL
How do you feel starting this practice book? On a scale 0 to 100.
How do you want to feel after applying the Puzzle in your life? On a scale 0 to 100.
Close my eyes and imagine being there.
Capture here with my own key words what it feels like - with some thoughts, feelings and sensations how it will be:
When do I want to be there?
And when do I want to start?!
I have chosen to focus on the tips of the Puzzle piece:
MYSELF IS MULTIPLE
Capture why I have chosen to transform the role "my Filter" plays
On a scale from 1 to 10, capture my perception how dysfunctional the Puzzle piece "my Filter" is today
On a scale from 1 to 10, write down what success will look like after I have successfully practiced the tip for 7 days in-a-row
Last, capture what I have achieved after these 7 days
SETTING UP EXPECTATIONS
What this tip is about:
How to practice this tip?
When asked, many people have an opinion on who I should be, or how I should act! I can even add my Ego to the long list!
How about getting rid of that pressure?! How about trusting that I am exceptional enough to simply be myself?!
That means that (1) every time I have a choice, I choose what I like - not what others like. Being happy with my choices, I will be able to explain what I stand for.
And (2) every time it is possible, I will share what I truly think. So I can be myself, rather than please people around me and pretend. And if I can't say, I will beg to differ. In the end, it is about making room for myself!
1. As a start, be myself around people or situations I am safe with. Consciously realise when I am about to do something to please someone. Refrain from doing it! If I have already accepted, then go back and explain I have changed my mind.
2. When I change, it has an impact on everyone. I will therefore get different reactions than what I am used to. It is neither good or bad, just different. Notice these differences, and how it makes me feel.
Witness also how these feelings evolve throughout this trial week. Stick to being myself.
Being myself does not mean being dogmatic. If for instance I make a choice, and then based on some reactions it feels right to me to change my mind, then do so! But I do not do it because of people’s reactions: I do it because it feels right to me. I do not cave and fear, rather step up to be kind to myself. Notice how many times this happens in my 7 days in-a-row trial.
3. Make sure I find at least one occasion per day to be myself - hence I should have at minimum 7 of these anecdotes written at the end of my 7 days in-a-row trial.
Describe the situation where I have been myself
How did the other person react?
How did I feel?
And to conclude this trial week:
Out of my 7 days in-a-row practice of being myself, did anything terrible happen?
Anything that would make me change my mind, like it was better before?
Table of content
Reflecting back on this experience:
What worked well?
What will you change with the next Puzzle piece?
Be kind to yourself!
Habits come and go: what matters is to be directionally correct.
It is OK to come back to a Puzzle piece you have already tackled, or to take more time to anchor a habit.
Do as it suits you best.
Come back to the Puzzle as you see fit
Seeking for inspiration?
Go through Thoughts and People’s stories to find out how others have leverage the Puzzle to solve their challenge
YOU ARE MASTERING THE TIPS RELATING TO THE PUZZLE PIECE "MYSELF IS MULTIPLE"!