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The Puzzle piece THE PROTECTION IN MY HEAD

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INTRODUCTION TO THE PUZZLE PRACTICE BOOK

You’re reading these lines because you’ve decided to bring a Puzzle tip into your life—congratulations on taking this meaningful step!


The Practice Book serves as your guided companion to implement Thee Puzzle tips, supporting you step by step on your transformation journey toward living well. For each Puzzle tip, you’ll find practical guidance on how to apply it and tools to track your progress. Be ready to take notes as you move through the steps!

When introducing a new Puzzle tip, we recommend focusing on just one tip at a time for a minimum of seven consecutive days. Science suggests that building a habit takes about three weeks:

  • The first week helps you get familiar with the change.

  • The second week can be challenging as doubts and resistance often arise. This is when persistence is key—stick with it!

  • By the third week, the habit will feel natural, and you may even find yourself craving the practice. From this point on, the tip becomes part of you.

Once you’ve completed the program with one tip, move on to the next. There’s no pre-set order—focus on what feels right for you, when you need it most.


Enjoy the process of anchoring new habits into your life!
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SETTING THE SCENE TO LIVE WELL

How do you feel starting this practice book? On a scale 0 to 10.

How do you want to feel after applying Thee Puzzle in your life? On a scale 0 to 10.

Close my eyes and imagine being there. Capture here with my own key words what it feels like - with some thoughts, feelings and sensations how it will be:

Do I commit to myself to keep going until I reach my goal?

And when do I want to start?

You have chosen to focus on the tips of the Puzzle piece:

THE PROTECTION IN MY HEAD


    Capture why I have chosen to transform the role "the Protection in my head" plays

    On a scale from 1 to 10, capture my perception how dysfunctional the Puzzle piece "the Protection in my head" is today

    On a scale from 1 to 10, write down what success will look like after I have successfully practiced the tip for 7 days in-a-row
    Science shows that it takes in total 3 weeks to settle a habit. The first 7 days to get used to it and ensure it suits you. The 2nd week will be challenging as this is when we fight and question a change. By the end of the 3rd week, you will crave to practice and the tip will be with you forever!

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SETTING UP EXPECTATIONS

TRIGGERING THE PROTECTION IN MY HEAD


What this tip is about:


How to practice this tip?

To leverage the Protection in my head, I need to set my limits upfront. The principle of defining my safe zone is to create a bubble where I feel comfortable. And be clear what is unacceptable to me. The more my limits are precise, the more my Ego will be able to jump at it when such an event occurs. For instance - do I accept if people shout at me? - do I accept when people are invading my private space, asking many questions about my private life? - do I accept being bossed around? - do I accept working extra time without limit in effort and/or time? - do I accept when someone looks down at me? We are guessing that the answer is no to most questions above - while I may even deal with all the above! We need to start somewhere, and then step by step create the snow ball that will turn into a mountain. So pick what bothers me the most these days: that is the priority we will focus on. Then we will move to the next more important challenge, and so on. Once I have identified this situation I want to act upon, I need to acknowledge when it is happening. Our challenge is usually a combination of a person and a certain behavior, which they may not display all the time. Or it could be a situation that repeats itself with various people (for instance, different people talk badly to me). So this tip starts with being aware, in the moment, that "it" is happening. Then, all I need to do is ask my Ego to fuel me, so I can react strongly. All it takes is to allow my Ego to be on fire each time a person flirts with my limits. I let my Ego play this role for me, and step up for me - just like young kids never give up when they ask for something, with all their heart and determination. Because in that moment, I want that determination. I want that ocean of will. I want the person to know that this is not acceptable. Never ever again do you act this way with me. So it imply that I will react strongly, in my own style (or not at the beginning, as this is most likely a learning curve°. Could be to be very angry, could be to be firm, could be to walk away: there are plenty of styles to set up the limits. Note that I may not get this right the first time. I may get angry and regret it. I may go too strong. I may go not hard enough. I may have the intent to do something... and do nothing. It does not matter so much whether I got it right or wrong: what matters is that I stood up for myself. And that, in itself, is a big step and a huge victory to savor. This is a learning curve and this is all OK. What matters is that I set up the limits. And that I am heading in the direction of stepping up for myself: no matter how, just doing it is progress. Then as I keep practicing, I will get better and better at it. I will tune and adjust my reactions, always keeping my Ego involved and on my side in this process. The more I practice, the better at it I will become. Last, limits are not dogmatic. They evolve with my life, suiting me at a given point in time. I could for instance now rebel against what I have accepted, or become tolerant with behaviors I did not allow in the past.

This 7-day process will help me identify, set, and reinforce my personal boundaries while practicing self-protection. 

The goal is to strengthen my ability to step up for myself authentically, progressively, and with the support of my Ego. 

By the end of this week, I’ll feel more confident and at ease with setting limits and standing my ground. I will also pump up will to keep practising for 3 weeks in a row, as science shows it is the time it takes to fully anchor a habit. 



Day 1: Assess my starting point


I begin by reflecting on where I stand today:

  • On a scale from 0 to 10, how scary is the idea of stepping up for myself? …………………

  • On a scale from 0 to 10, how much at ease am I with setting limits? ……………………

Next, I’ll create a list of situations that I no longer want to accept in my life. These might include for instance:

- Being shouted at.
- Having my personal space or privacy invaded.
- Being disrespected or looked down on.
- Working without limits on time or effort.

Once I have my list, I’ll choose one priority that bothers me the most right now. While I may have a long list, it is important that I only pick one to start with. The idea is to focus and prove to myself that this works: if we want to boil the ocean, then things are unlikely to happen. Start small and expect: choose my focus for the next 3 weeks.


Action: Write down my top priority for setting limits this week and reflect on why this matters to me.



Day 2: Define my Boundaries and commit
  • To trigger my inner protection, I need to be clear about what is acceptable and unacceptable for me. 

I shall ask myself:

- When this situation happens, how much am I now willing to tolerate? Rate from 0 to 10
- How committed am I to protecting myself? Rate from 0 to 10

I’ll acknowledge that my limits aren’t fixed—and that they can still evolve with time and circumstances. For today, I commit to protecting myself from at least one unacceptable event.


Action:

  • Write down what I will no longer accept this week.

  • Commit to taking action when the priority situation arises, knowing and accepting that I may not get it perfect.


Day 3: Take the first step to protect myself
  • When the situation I’ve identified happens, I will respond in a way that feels right for me. This could mean being firm, expressing my feelings, walking away, or any other reaction that aligns with my style.

  • And I am acting having mobilized my Ego to help me, talking to it. For instance: “My dear Ego, I need you urgently now. Stand by my side and give me strenght as I protect myself. Let’s show the world that this is not acceptable!”

I know that stepping up for myself might triggers a reaction in the other person—and that’s OK. What matters is that I am prioritizing my well-being.

If I choose to explain my boundary, I will do so without justifying myself. My feelings are valid, and my discomfort is reason enough to act.


Action:

  • Reflect on how it felt to protect myself.

  • Write down what worked, what didn’t, and what I could do differently next time.

  • Decide which differences I want to enforce next time the situation arises


Day 4: Practice and refine
  • Keep practicing stepping up for myself today. 

Each time a situation arises, I will acknowledge my limits and react as best as I can.

I shall keep in mind that this is a learning process. I might not get it perfect, but every attempt is a step forward.

  • I will also focus on what I learned from my previous attempts and refine my approach:

- Was my reaction too strong or too weak?

- How would I like to react in an ideal world? What's best suited for me?
- Did I react at all, or did I hesitate?
- How did I feel afterward?

Action: Journal about any situations I faced today and how I responded. And celebrate every step forward, no matter how small! Every victory is a victory, and a step towards myself. I am building up the muscle to protect myself!



Day 5: Reflect on my progress


As I practice setting limits, Day 5 is a day to take a step back. 

Take a moment to reflect:

- Did I protect myself from real toxic situations, or were some of my reactions based on assumptions or misjudgments?
- If I misjudged, what can I learn to prevent this from happening next time?

I’ll also assess whether my actions caused reactions I wasn’t prepared for. And how I dealed with it. 

In such a case, what matters is that I hold the ground to protect myself. Or realise I was polluting myself, there was nothing to be protected from and move on. When we are in this process, we are so focused on finding situations to protect ourselves and practice, that we may mis-interpreter a situation and over react. That is OK too: it is part of the learning curve. 

Take the time to reflect on what I learned and how I can handle similar situations differently in the future.


Action:

  • Write down one key lesson I’ve learned about protecting myself so far.

  • Identify one adjustment I want to make moving forward.


Day 6: Expand my awareness and courage


To measure my progress, I shall ask myself

- Am I noticing a positive trend? 

- Are toxic situations happening less as I step up for myself?


And about how I take stock of how I feel:

- Do I feel stronger?
- Do I have more courage than I thought?
- Am I surprised at how well I’ve handled conversations I once feared?
- Am I proud of myself for stepping up?

If I answered “yes” to any of these, I know I’m on the right path! And can be proud of myself for doing this!


Action: Celebrate my progress and commit to continuing this practice.



Day 7: Reassess and Anchor the Habit


Let's revisit the questions I answered on Day 1:

- On a scale from 0 to 10, how scary is the idea of stepping up for myself now?
- On a scale from 0 to 10, how much at ease am I with setting limits now?
- How have these answers evolved over the past 7 days?


And on a scale from 0 to 10, is it worth continuing to step up for myself?

Last: be patient.

Deep and real change takes time. Science shows it takes 3 weeks to anchor a new habit, so continue practicing and reflecting beyond this week.


Action: Write down how I will maintain this practice for the next 2 weeks, also acknowledging how worth it this journey has been for me so far on a scale from 0 to 10.


This 7-day plan is about progress, not perfection. By the end of this week, I have begun stepping up for myself, setting boundaries, and aligning my actions with my values. This is the start of a lifelong journey toward self-respect and empowerment.

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  • Triggering the Protection in my head

  • Putting myself first

  • Be Flexible

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Reflecting back on this experience:

  • What worked well?

  • What will you change with the next Puzzle piece?

Be kind to yourself!
Habits come and go: what matters is to be directionally correct.
It is OK to come back to a Puzzle piece you have already tackled, or to take more time to anchor a habit.
Do as it suits you best.

BE FLEXIBLE


What this tip is about:


How to practice this tip?

Being flexible might seem counterintuitive when it comes to protecting myself, but it offers an interesting alternative to consider.


Keep this phrase in mind: when I am flexible, I am like water.

 If I face a rock, I can go around or over it, but I keep flowing. Nothing gets in the way and holds water back from reaching the sea. It may require detours, it may take longer - but ultimately, with patience it gets there. 


The goal is here is not to hold my position, but to adapt and fit into the situation, maintaining progress. Because every battle is not worth it. 

This tip is about learning to protect myself by embracing a situation, because I don’t need or want to stand up for myself - and therefore I am looking for an alternative path to be OK with it. 


Creating the conditions to follow the flow

As a start, I need to feel safe.


If my emotions take over or I’m influenced by a Cold Case, I won’t have the open mind required to understand. This tip for instance is not efficient if I fear something, because I then won't come with an open mind. Instead, I’ll make assumptions or create narratives that might not be true.


This tip is about practicing empathy by:

  1. Taking a step back: This means keeping my emotions at a distance and viewing the situation or person with detachment.

  2. Thinking in black and white to start:Identify my position and the other person’s position in the situation.

    What is the starting statement for each side? For example, one side says, “Sugar is bad and leads to diabetes.”
    The other side says, “Children need sugar to grow, and the best source is from fruits.”
    Evaluate the facts supporting both positions. This shows that both extremes can have valid points, regardless of whether I agree.
    No judgments here—just understanding.

  3. Exploring options between black and white: consider alternative perspectives and facts that fall between the extremes.

  4. Reflecting on the importance of the situation:

- Why does this situation matter to me?
- What do I want out of it?
- What would a good outcome look like?

Deciding upon my approach

With this clarity in hand, I can decide:

  • Does the outcome justify being flexible, like water?

  • Can I adjust and flow with the situation, keeping the goal in mind and accepting the compromises along the way?

  • Or does this situation call for a different approach, like stepping up for myself and standing firm?

In simpler terms: is it worth shielding, or can I adapt because achieving the goal matters more than holding my position?


No right or wrong choice

Ultimately, there’s no right or wrong decision here. It’s about making a conscious choice—one that aligns with my values, goals, and the importance of the situation.

Typically, it is important to note that understanding doesn’t mean agreeing. Understanding is about gathering more information—enough to follow the logic of a situation or person—without necessarily aligning with their perspective.

So my decision boils down to whether I decide to behave like water - as the final objective is so important that I can accept to fit in and follow the flow. Or is it costing me too much, in which case I should rather use another tip and stand up for myself. 

This program will guide me over the course of 7 days to detach from emotions and decide when to adapt versus stand firm. 


Each day builds on the last, helping me learn and apply this mindset in real-life situations.



Day 1: Create the right mindset


The first step is to ensure I feel safe and grounded. If my emotions are in control, or if past experiences (such as a Cold Cases) influence me, I won’t be able to approach situations with an open mind.


Action:

  • Identify one situation or person that I want to adapt to 

  • Ask myself:

- What emotions do I feel about this situation or person?
- Do these emotions make me feel safe, neutral, or defensive?
- Am I willing to approach this with an open mind, or is fear clouding my perspective?

Be aware that this tip only functions if I feel safe or neutral, and come with an open mind. 

If the situation I chose does not fit this definition, then I should pick another one to practice this tip. 




Day 2: Take a step back


Today, I shall practice viewing situations with detachment, keeping my emotions at a distance.


Action:

  • Write down the starting position of each side:

- What is my position in this situation?
- What is the other person’s position?

  • Evaluate the facts:

- What evidence supports my position? Why do I think the way I do?
- What evidence supports the other side? And why could the other person think the way he or she does?

As I go through this step, there is a golden rule to keep in mind: no judgement. Be like water: go with the flow and follow the logic. It is not about deciding whether I agree or not: it is about setting up options. 

Accordingly, the other person's position should make as much sense, in its own logic, as mine. 




Day 3: Explore grey areas


Today, I shall look for compromises or alternative perspectives that might lie between the extremes.


Action:


Consider options between black and white:

- Could both sides have valid points?

- what other logics and alternatives could apply to this situation? 


Look beyond the extremes. Also be creative in my approach: could both extremes cohabit for instance? 

To share an example, it was always clear that a marathon is not a sprint. Until someone ran it in less than 2 hours, training both as a sprinter and a marathonian to achieve this record. 



Day 4: Explore my limits


At this stage, I should reflect on the ultimate goal in this situation. 

- What do I hope to achieve? 

- What is this greater purpose which I want to reach, and that defines what success is?
- What would a good outcome look like?


In addition, I need to define for myself what compromise am I willing to make.

- Where does my limits lie, i.e. that is a position I will not go beyond as I would not be truthful to myself beyond this point. 

- How far am I willing to go?
- What compromises could work for both sides?


The intent is to have clear ideas what my limits are, and what could be an acceptable outcome - for me, and also for the other party. 


With a clear understanding of the situation and possible compromises, I now have a clear picture set when to adapt like water or stand firm. I know up to which point I can be flexible, after which I shall hold still (cf. other tips under this "Protection" Puzzle piece). 



Day 5-7: Apply & reflect


Now that everything is thought through, it is time to practice the decision I made yesterday and apply it to a real situation. I shall practice as much as I can during these 2 days. 

As I do so, I shall stand above the conversation, keeping in mind the greater goal - and go with the flow, stearing to get there without playing defense or offense. 


Action:

  • After the facts, reflect on how I handle the situation: how did it it feel to adapt and flow?

  • If I chose to stand firm at some point, how confident and comfortable was I in the moment?

Write down how my approach affected the outcome and how I felt during the process. 

Also take the time to celebrate, as this was a big thing to prepare and do. 


And keep practising for another 2 weeks, as science shows it is the time it takes to fully anchor a habbit. 


By practicing this tip, I am taking steps to balance adaptability with intentional decision-making. Flexibility, like water, allows me to flow around obstacles while maintaining focus on what truly matters. Because every battle is not worth fighting: with this mindset, I am learning another option to protect myself. 

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PUTTING MYSELF FIRST


What this tip is about:


How to practice this tip?

Most of us are raised with the belief that others should always come first. 

The opposite is seen as selfish—and who wants to be selfish? We’re also taught that putting ourselves first means the world revolves around us, making us self-centered and disconnected from others. And again, who wants to be that person?


This tip is here to break that pattern. 

Constantly pleasing others and putting them first creates a complicated life, leaving us uneasy and out of balance. While this behavior might have been useful when we were learning to socialize, it no longer serves us. That ends now.


Putting myself first doesn’t mean I become selfish or solely focused on myself. It means I start listening to how I feel, using that as a guide for my decisions. 


And the benefits of this mindset are undeniable:



1. I stop trying to read other people’s minds.


For too long, I’ve complicated my life by anticipating what others want, think, or expect. I’ve worked around assumptions, imagined countless scenarios, and spent energy trying to meet those expectations. Yet despite my efforts, I often get it wrong.


Putting myself first means acknowledging that I am only in my own head—not anyone else’s. When I feel the discomfort of trying to guess what someone else wants, I can break the pattern. Instead of speculating, I ask. I validate my assumption or ask directly. This allows me to stay grounded in my reality and focus on my own feelings and needs.


2. It’s liberating and empowering to put myself first.


By putting myself first, I stop overthinking and making decisions for others. That’s the liberating part. 

The empowering part comes from knowing that I am in control of my own thoughts and feelings.


I don’t need to assume or guess for myself—I know what I think, how I feel, and what I need. With this clarity, every decision I make is informed and authentic. I feel stronger and more aligned with who I am.

The paradox is that by putting myself first, I can actually gain empathy. When I stop thinking for others, I allow them the freedom to think for themselves. I can then truly listen to their responses because I’m no longer tied to preconceived ideas.


Putting myself first creates space for others to be themselves while allowing me to be fully me.



3. I can take better care of myself.


Just as parents nurture their children, I nurture myself. 

Taking care of myself doesn’t make me selfish or harmful to others. It simply means I prioritize my well-being before tending to others.


It’s like the airplane oxygen mask metaphor: if I take care of others before myself, I risk running out of air. Why should I put others first at the expense of my own worth? Why would I believe I deserve to come last?


Truth is, there’s no valid reason for me to always put myself last. This pattern was learned, but I’m an adult now. It’s time to grow up and take responsibility for my own well-being. I deserve care and respect—from myself first and foremost.



4. I become the person I want to be.


Putting myself first isn’t just about treating myself to occasional luxuries like a massage or a nice weekend. 

It’s about respecting my emotions, understanding what they’re telling me, and acting on them consciously.


It means loving myself enough to listen to how I think and feel, acknowledging my worth, and making choices that honor who I am. This process is incredibly fulfilling and makes me feel whole.



5. The courage to put myself first


This shift requires courage. I’ve spent decades putting others first, believing I had good reasons to do so. Changing this habit can feel like jumping into cold water—it’s shocking at first, and I might wonder why I’m even doing it.


The key is to live it. 

No matter how scary it feels, I need to move from thinking to doing. I need to see, feel, and experience what it’s like to put myself first—gradually, step by step.


So far, not a single person who has tried this approach has said they’d prefer to go back to putting others first. That alone shows how transformative this practice is, and how worth it.



Building the habit


It takes practice to create this new habit, and science shows it takes about three weeks to fully anchor a behavior. During this time, I’ll continue putting myself first, one small step at a time.


By consistently prioritizing myself, I’ll discover a life that is more balanced, fulfilling, and aligned with who I truly am.

This 7-day step-by-step guide is designed to help me break the pattern of putting others first, explore what it means to prioritize myself, and start building the habit of putting myself first. 

Each day offers a manageable, actionable step to practice this transformative approach.


Day 1: Acknowledge the pattern and reflect


Today, I focus on reflecting on the beliefs that shaped my habit of putting others first.

To do so, I shall write down the situations where I consistently put others ahead of myself and ask:

  • Why do I do this?

  • What fears or beliefs drive this behavior (for example, being seen as selfish)?

Putting myself first doesn’t make me a bad person: it means I respect how I feel and use that to guide my decisions.


Action: Write all the affirmations which come to mind why prioritizing myself is a good idea. For instance: "I deserve to take care of myself because I am worthy".



Day 2: Stop reading other people’s minds


For too long, I’ve anticipated what others might think, want, or need. Today, I will break this habit by asking directly instead of guessing.


• When I catch myself speculating about what someone wants, I'll pause and ask them instead.


I’ll remind myself: I can’t be in someone else’s head. The only head I’m in is mine, and I am busy enough with it! So let's stop guessing and simply ask. 

The following thinking process may then kick in: we feel a false sense of control when we think for others and anticipate their reactions (false in the sense that we never get it all right, if ever). Asking questions without anticipating the answer means being open to surprises - good or bad. And that's OK: let the other person be. Plus they are being thruthful to me : if what they say bugs me, then that is for me to solve. But pretending they are not what they say they feel or think - that is not the way forward. They have the right to fully be themselves, and not boxed by my imagination. The same way I have the right to fully exist. 


Action: Practice asking clarifying questions to validate or dismiss assumptions I make about others. And on a scale from 0 to 10, assess whether this is making my life easier. 



Day 3: Reclaim my time and energy


Today, I’ll focus on the liberating and empowering aspects of putting myself first.


• I’ll stop overthinking decisions and recognize that I have control over my own thoughts and feelings.
• I’ll notice how much mental energy I save by thinking for myself instead of others.


And I’ll keep reminding myself: by putting myself first, I allow others the freedom to think for themselves too.


Action: Identify one decision today where I’ll focus entirely on my own thoughts, feelings, and needs without considering others’ assumptions or expectations.



Day 4: Practice self-care like I would for someone I love


Today, I will take good care of myself, just as a parent cares for a child.


• I’ll identify one area where I’ve been putting others’ needs before mine, such as others coming before my physical rest or me doing things at the expense of my emotional boundaries.


And I’ll keep reminding myself: I can’t take care of others if I don’t first take care of myself, just like putting on my oxygen mask first. If I am dead alive, no one gets the best of me (including myself!).


Action: Do one thing to nurture myself today, whether it’s saying no to an extra demand, taking a break, or doing something just for me.



Day 5: Embrace my worth


Today, I’ll connect with the person I want to be by acknowledging my emotions and honoring them.


As always, I’ll remind myself that putting myself first means respecting my feelings and making choices that reflect my worth.

  • When I notice an emotion, I’ll pause to ask:

- What is this feeling telling me?
- What do I need right now to embrace it? 

Try not to push harsh feelings down. If I feel one that could be overwehlming, then I could isolate myself to process it. Note that I can reach out for external support (like call a friend, talk to a close colleague...) or handle it myself. 

If I choose to process it on my own, there are a few things I can do: focus on the emotion. 

At first I will be scared that it grows and invades me until being out of control. In reality, putting the spot light on an emotion I want to diggest reduces it, until it goes. So stay on it, dance with it, and watch it schrink as you do. 

Second (and this is not sequential), I have resources I can pull. If for instance I am very stressed and I need to come down, I can pull up being come. If I am sad, I can pull up being detached or happy. I have all these emotions available in me: to bring them up, start by breathing in and out deeply. Pull out my belly as I inspire (...yes, we often get that one wrong: belly out when we inspire!), block for 5 seconds, then expire as much as I can. Do it 10 times, and then ask myself to bring up the emotion I need. Ask for peace. Ask for love. Ask for joy. Ask for what I need, in this moment - to feel better. And savor that emotion I am bringing up. 


More than ever, I’ll remind myself: loving myself means listening to my emotions and acting in a way that aligns with my values.

Action: Identify one decision or action today that reflects who I want to be and take it.



Day 6: Face the discomfort with courage


I’ve spent years putting others first, so changing this habit can feel uncomfortable. 


Today, I’ll focus on courage:
• I’ll acknowledge that this shift might feel scary, like jumping naked into cold water and in front of a crowd!
• I’ll remind myself: every time I prioritize myself, I’m learning to live in alignment with whom I truly am.
• I’ll reflect on how far I’ve come in just a few days and how freeing it feels to step into this new way of being.


Action: Take one small action today that feels courageous—whether it’s setting a boundary, saying no, or prioritizing my own needs in a specific situation.



Day 7: Reflect, celebrate, and commit


Today, I am looking back on the past week and notice the shifts I’ve experienced.

  • How has my mindset changed about putting myself first?

  • What benefits have I noticed so far?

  • What challenges did I face, and how did I overcome them?

  • On a scale from 0 to 10, how proud am I of myself for doing this?

And this is just the beginning! This process takes time and courage, but every step forward builds a life that is more balanced, authentic, and fulfilling. 

The more I practice putting myself first, the more I create space to grow into the person I want to be. So keep practicing: it’s worth it.


Action: Commit to practicing this habit for another 2 weeks to anchor it fully, and to keep on celebrating all the wins associated to this process. 


CONGRATULATIONS!

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RULES

MASTER

YOU ARE MASTERING THE TIPS RELATING TO THE PUZZLE PIECE "THE PROTECTION IN MY HEAD"!
WELL DONE!!

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